By Doug Creamer
Last week started out great. My supervisor asked me if I would do a presentation for our precollege students. She wanted me to teach them how to present themselves when they go into a group setting. We called it, “how to work the room.” It was a lesson on how to dress, smile, shake someone’s hand, and participate in a conversation. I had a great time presenting to the students.
I left that presentation and went to Greensboro, where I helped with the officer elections at the State DECA competition. There were 37 students running for 6 offices. The competition was going to be intense. Each year when it is over my hope is always renewed in our future. These students demonstrate an understanding of the responsibility of leadership. They know that true leaders are called to serve, not be served.
I am always given an opportunity to talk with the candidates for a few minutes. I tell them about my experience running one of my students for state office. My student was edged out in one of the closest races I know about in NC DECA history. I also share a story that I am familiar with of a young man who ran for a National DECA office and won.
I help with administering the test and the interview process. A committee of about 8 students interviews the candidates to determine if they will be eligible to be on the final ballot for their office. It is a tough interview and the students on the committee give each candidate a fair evaluation of their performance. Seeing both the candidates and the committee members, who are all students, acting so maturely strengthens my faith in the future of our country.
I came home riding on the clouds. I shared the evening and my special day with my wife. I had plans to retire early after such a full day. I took a moment to check my social media, only to discover that a former student had posted that he had said good-bye to his cousin. I became alarmed because I taught his cousin earlier in my career. I desperately looked through the posts for some confirmation about the meaning of his post. Sadly, I discovered that his cousin, my former student Chad Winebarger, had passed away. My heart was broken! I wrote a note expressing my sorrow to my former student.
Chad and his cousin Ike were both in my class at Elkin High School. They were active members in my DECA Club and competed in competitions. Chad, Ike, and four of their friends made it to the National Competition in Denver, Colorado. My wife and I chaperoned these six guys on one of the best trips I have ever taken.
The six guys pulled a number of great pranks on my wife and me. They gave us memories for a lifetime. They were the most respectful & polite group of guys, who kept us laughing the whole trip. They all won proficiencies at the National competition.
Chad was a tennis star in high school who continued his winning streak in college. He was a smart and respectful young man. He went on to become an attorney in Charlotte, fighting for people who had been hurt on their jobs. He was a young man of strong moral character. He leaves behind a wife, two children, a loving family, and at least one proud teacher.
My supervisor asked me if I would do the presentation I mentioned earlier for our evening precollege students. I hit on two things heavily: character and kindness. When we consider our legacy and how people will remember us, people will remember how we treated them. People will remember the way we acted and our behavior. They will remember if our words were kind and filled with compassion and understanding. People never forget those who are kind and generous. Generosity can include our money, our kind choice of words, our time, our attention, which includes listening, and our warm smile.
I want to encourage you to live each day as if it were your last. Treat people in your life with love and dignity. Make sure your family and friends know how much you love and appreciate them. Remember that kindness is worth more than money. I want to be remembered as someone who cared about the people in my life and that people knew that I was there for them. If the world had more Chad Winebargers, more DECA State officers, more people who were filled with love and kindness it would be a wonderful world. Rest in peace, Chad.
Contact Doug Creamer at PO Box 777, Faith, NC 28041or doug@dougcreamer.com